Are you planning a bridal shower for a friend? Have some unanswered questions? Here are some answers to common bridal shower planning questions.
It’s customary for the maid of honor to play hostess to the bride’s bridal shower, although many of those traditions have evolved over the years. Whether you’re upholding this tradition or not, if you’re going to be a hostess, it’s likely you have plenty of questions about the planning process. Regardless of how large or small the occasion will be, a lot of responsibility falls on the host to make sure the bridal shower goes off without a hitch.
Familiarize yourself with the following common bridal shower Q&A before you begin planning:
Do I need to buy the favors? How much should I spend?—Bridal shower favors should be included at any shower occasion, although there is no need to spend a fortune. Typically, the host does buy the favors since they are coordinating the entire event, but if money is a concern to you, there are plenty of reasonably priced, stylish bridal shower favors to choose from.
How do I know who to invite? Can I invite anyone?—Unless you are planning a surprise bridal shower, it is considered proper etiquette to obtain a guest list from the bride herself. If it is a surprise, go to a close friend or family member and get a list from them. Do not take the liberty of inviting people the bride doesn’t know.
Should I still buy the bride a gift even though I am throwing her the shower?—Yes. Even though you are throwing the shower, it is proper bridal shower etiquette to give the bride a gift. If you are the maid of honor, you can get together with the other bridesmaids and chip in for one large gift, or you can buy something simple and affordable on your own.
Does it matter if I’m not the maid of honor?—If you are not the maid of honor and you want to throw a shower for your friend, consult first with the bride’s maid of honor to see if she intends on throwing her one, or discuss possibly teaming up with her to plan one. Traditionally, it’s the maid of honor who throws the shower, so tread carefully as to ensure you don’t take that role away from anyone. Anything goes today. Grandmothers, aunts, and future mother-in-laws all plan wedding showers for brides. Just be sure to check before you begin planning a wedding shower to avoid any hurt feelings or drama!